Swipe Culture

If you’re somewhat new to the singles scene, you may have noticed that everyone seems to be swiping, not dating. Welcome to the new swipe happy dating culture! I’ve been divorced for more than a decade now, and I’m still swiping left when I should’ve swiped right…or was it the other way around? Anyhow, once something takes hold and becomes popular, you may as well embrace it! After all, these dating apps aren’t going anywhere. In fact, new ones keep popping up everyday. So, let’s embrace change and learn how to navigate it, shall we?

FOR WOMEN:

1. FIND THE RIGHT APP
When jumping in to the swipe culture,
it’s super important to find the right app
that ts what you’re looking for. Interested
in hookups? Tinder is an all-star for that.
Want to be in control and make the rst
move? Try Bumble. Do some research before
diving in.

2. IT’S NOT STALKING!
Before you give some dude your phone
number, do your research. It’s not stalking,
it’s called being informed. If you have some
mutual friends, do some digging. Check out
his Facebook prole. Does he look the same
as his Zoosk picture? If possible, contact one
of your mutual friends and get the scoop.

3. TAKE IT OFFLINE
When dating through an app, you’re going
to want to take it offline as quickly as
possible. There’s no point in chatting for
months on end when there’s zero possibility
the two of you will ever end up together.
If he checks out, press for a phone call.
If that goes well, meet up in person. Stop
wasting your precious time!

FOR MEN:

1. BE YOURSELF
I can’t stress enough how important it is for
you to just be yourself. If she doesn’t like the
real you, why would you want to date her
anyway? Your picture should look like you
yesterday — not like you did ten years ago.
Please make sure it’s a recent photo, and put
on a shirt! There’s plenty of time later to impress
her with those rock hard abs.

2. BE HONEST
See how I always throw that into my articles?
Don’t make your profile full of stuff that’s
not even remotely true. Trust me,
she’ll find out the truth soon enough and
then she won’t be able to trust you. This is
not a great way to start any relationship!

3. DON’T THINK THAT THERE ARE
PLENTY OF FISH IN THE SEA
The problem with online dating is that it
gives us the impression that there’s plenty
of fish in the sea. While there are plenty of
singletons out there, finding one that you
truly connect with and see a future with is
rare. If you find an amazing woman that
you click with, do everything you can to
keep her dating you! Remember that no
one is perfect (including you). Don’t dump
her over the slightest imperfection. She
may not give you a second chance. Don’t
live with that regret!