Red Flags

So you’ve started dating someone new, and things are going great! Congratulations! Hold on, don’t pop open that champagne prematurely. The beginning of a relationship is the time to really get to know the other person. Before getting swept off your feet, make sure you truly know what you’re getting into. Translation: Don’t ignore those red flags!

The dictionary defines a red flag as a warning signal. Akin to a red traffic light (urging you to STOP!), a red flag when you’re getting to know your partner should
make you stop and pay attention. Not everyone you date is going to end up being your life partner, and you need to keep this in mind when you’re out there dating. So what should you do when you are dating someone but you see some major red flags?

FOR WOMEN:
1. DON’T IGNORE THEM
If you feel like something is o with the man you’re dating, you’re probably right. Women are blessed with heightened cognitive abilities, and you need to use this to your advantage. Don’t ignore what your intuition is telling you! Also, stop making excuses for his behavior. He’s not that “busy with work.” Men will make the time for the things that are important to them.

2. LISTEN TO YOUR GUT
If you continue to ignore what your gut is telling you, the warning signals could show up in your body in the form of injury or disease. Don’t let it get that far, your health depends on it.

3. BE WILLING TO WALK AWAY
If you keep noticing those red flags (i.e. the things that you can’t put up with in a relationship), you’re going to have to be willing to walk away forever. Men only change when they want to. Ultimatums or massive temper tantrums rarely work.

FOR MEN:
1. IT’S THE LITTLE THINGS
Warning signs that a relationship may not work out doesn’t always have to be something major like ingfidelity. It’s the little things that count too. For example, you’re on a date with a woman and you have to run to the restroom. She orders herself another drink, but doesn’t order you one. That’s super inconsiderate! Why would you go out with her again?

2. LOOKS AREN’T EVERYTHING
Guys, we know y’all are rating us on a scale from one to ten. We haven’t been living under a rock. But just because she’s a “10” doesn’t mean you should let certain things slide. Let’s say that she keeps making you wait when you’re a stickler for being on time. I can promise you there’s another equally beautiful woman out there who’s prompt and would be a much better match for you!

3. NO ONE IS PERFECT
You’re in the driver’s seat here. You may already know there are way more single ladies out there then there are single men. Sigh. But realize that no one is perfect, and finding a woman you connect with is rare.

She’s imperfect, but so are you!